How To: A staffer’s opinion on how to do Friendsgiving right

Heading into this year’s Friendsgiving — a Thanksgiving celebration with loved ones who aren’t blood related — I know exactly what dishes I’ll beeline for when it’s time to make our plates. When this fun-filled event is hosted well, it can easily be the best holiday of the year. However, Friendsgiving isn’t only about cute sweaters, giving thanks for friends-turned-chosen families or taking pictures.

Throughout November, you’ll see the picture-perfect spreads with perfect hair and group photos with big smiles, but behind the Instagram posts lies the truth: the dishes people bring center the event. So what should you bring to rock your friends’ worlds? 

First, make sure there’s a variety of dishes. To achieve this, create a Google Form or a SignUp Genius so each guest can sign up or volunteer to bring a dish. This way your Friendsgiving won’t end up with everyone bringing the basic bread rolls and desserts. The key to a successful Friendsgiving is including everything from turkey to pies. 

Next, be prepared to DJ. No one wants to eat in awkward silence — plus, good music always contributes to a good time. It will ensure you set the mood you want, and make a comfortable space for you and your guests. You could even create a collaborative Spotify playlist ahead of time for everyone to add their favorite songs. For background music, consider smooth jazz or instrumental tracks. When you aren’t busy chatting, try upbeat music, like your favorite 2000’s throwbacks. 

Remember to be present with your guests. Pictures are certainly a fun way to capture memories, but the goal of Friendsgiving is to celebrate one another, not just pose for Instagram. 

Another important host or hostess responsibility is to be aware of any allergies. The last thing you want in this time of thanks is a friend suffering a severe allergic reaction. It’s best to know of any allergies when inviting your guests so if you aren’t sure, always double check — although it’s cliché, it’s better to be safe than sorry. 

If you’re on the search for allergen free choices, you might consider salads, turkey, asparagus or mashed potatoes. While some try to avoid their greens, if you cook and season them just right, they’ll be undeniably scrumptious, and the thought just might make your friend’s day.

Finally, don’t be afraid to spice things up. Trying new foods such as funky fruits, or exploring exotic dishes is a fun way to learn more about what your loved ones enjoy. This could include simply trying a new type of pie or incorporating food from another culture. 

With a thoughtfully planned menu and a killer playlist, your friends will find themselves more thankful than ever this coming holiday season.